Listening is a lot harder than we think. Let’s face it — we are great talkers, blamers, and deflectors, but for the most part, we are terrible listeners. We develop bad listening habits for so many reasons. We’re distracted. We’re defensive, we’re impatient....
I’m a Long Island girl and a product of a loving, long term marriage (52 years!). If you had asked me at 13 where I saw myself in 35 years, never would I have guessed this reality. Seventeen years after I said “I do,” I’m divorced, with 3 amazing kids (twin boys 9,...
It can be difficult sometimes to know how you can support a family member going through divorce. And if you’re the one who is going through the separation, it can also be hard to ask for the help you need. I was especially dreading telling my mom, but I...
I’ve been working with separated and divorcing parents for a really long time (like 20+ years long). During the span of my career, there’s not much that catches me off guard. However, when I asked a young woman who was an adult child of divorce,...
When I’m with a group of people, I often hear from them about a “friend” in trouble in their marriage. Nearly universally, they tell me why they would be better off getting a divorce. When I ask why, they said things like, “They are a jerk,” “They cheat,” “They don’t...
It was 9:00 am on a Wednesday as I sat in an office I had become way too familiar with. I was in my second year of my divorce mediation. As I sat across from my soon to be former husband, I did not recognize the man that I once knew and I’m sure he would have said the...
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